I have been working on reducing my tasks and responsibilities, in order to live better. I reduced my positions at multiple organizations. I focused on getting urgent tasks done so I could concentrate on significant and life altering tasks and roles. Years ago I read, Ordering Your Private World, by Gordon McDonald. I also read several Steven Covey books as well as some resource I cannot remember, that suggested dividing your life into your most important roles (I think 7 was suggested) and make sure you balance your life around those roles.
All this was helpful, but actually I found that when I am looking for a system to get me out of a system, I end up busy all over again.
So, I am just reducing to what is important. I am narrowing down what I want to do, to what I am able to do. This includes my roles, my tasks, and my hobbies. I am a husband, father, “family-member,” friend, pastor/director, and athlete (adventurer). My priorities are relationships (1st God, then all others), serving other people with God’s grace, and staying physically active and healthy.
IT IS OK TO SAY NO TO SOMETHING GOOD, EVEN GREAT!!! I have to tell myself that often.
I am able to say no, because always saying yes is really somewhat arrogant and prideful, thinking either I am the only one who is able, or that I am always the one who ought to do it. There is always someone else who is more than able to do all the tasks that are not related to my personal relationships. Someone else is more than able to be used by God to fulfill any role I serve in ministry. I have to make sure, I do not shirk off something he is calling me to, but more times than not, I jump before I make sure he is calling me, instead of seeing He just might be showing me something I just need to be aware of or help someone else heed the call to do it.
Here are just a few questions I ask myself…Is this something that directly affects my relationships, that I am able to do something about? Is this something that directly affects my calling? Is this something that is my responsibility, or am I able to delegate it more effectively? Do I have any Sabbath time or recreation time, and why not? Are there some urgent needs, that are keeping my from my priorities? How does it affect my roles or does it fall into one of my roles?
One of the effects of being overly busy, was I let my health get away from me. I gained 20 pounds and lost my ability to run or cycle any long distances. So, I began to focus on my health, as an urgent need. My attitude, abilities and mental status were affected.
So, I downloaded MyFitnessPal and started tracking my calories. I read several articles on Clean Eating. I downloaded a schedule for preparing to run the Cowtown 1/2 Marathon. I blocked off time each day to take care of these efforts. I do not schedule appointments or find reasons not to do each of these tasks. I faithfully track my calories and stay within the projected calorie count MyFitnessPal set for me. I faithfully run the scheduled distances, 4 times per week, early in the morning. I pay attention to ingredients and seek to eat clean. I have lost over 10 lbs to date and have increased my pace where I am running right at 10 min/mile for 7+ miles. My BP is down. My weight is down. My heart rate is slower. My attitude has changed and I am mentally clearer.
I am working on my relationships…1st with my wife, with my children, with my grandchildren and with the rest of my family. I am taking time to get with my friends. I am spending more time doing the tasks that will directly affect my ministry. And I am making sure I have time to be an adventurer in the areas I enjoy the most…running, cycling, sailing and vacationing with my wife.
I will keep you posted. Oh, and by the way, my new Altra Torin running shoes are the best!!! And my Oboz Hiking boots really did their job and are holding up well as I use them for Backpacking and going to Honduras.